Here’s a passage from my book Leap Before You Look.When your partner or anyone close to you is speaking to you,
Whether telling you a story, lodging a complaint, or sharing a feeling,
Give your undivided attention.
Listen with all of you:
With your ears, with your heart, with your skin, with your breath.
Pay attention so completely that everything else disappears.
Listen not only to the words,
But to the mysterious presence from which those words arise.
Listen to the sound of the voice, to the inflections.
Listen to the silence between the words.
Listen to what was not said, but can still be sensed. (more…)

vision

This is a practice from my latest book: “Leap Before You Look.” This practice is chosen from the section “Meditation Practices.”

In the midst of your busy day, stop.
Sit quietly with your eyes open.
Look at any object before you.
Now take an in-breath and expand your vision
To include what is immediately to the left and to the right of that object.
With the out-breath, relax and settle into yourself.
Take another in-breath and expand your vision even more,
To include everything that’s before you, in an arc of about ninety degrees.
Breathe out and settle further into yourself.
Take another in-breath and include your entire field of vision.
Your attention is equally distributed between what is in front of you
And all of your peripheral vision.
Expand it even more to include things not just to the left and the right,
But even things over your shoulders.
Expand beyond what your eyes can see.
With the out-breath, relax completely into being that which sees all.
Remain like this, breathing softly, for several minutes.
Feel the mystery of your own essence.

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