Awakening Coaching


If you’ve been reading my stuff here for a while, you probably remember that back in the summer of 2009, I started to conduct interviews for a new publication with some very interesting people. I’ve been busy with that ever since. Finally, it’s come to some sort of completion.

In almost every tradition, there has been a split between spiritual awakening and worldly life. A sadhu in India renounces money, sexuality, and even clothes to discover “moksha.” In the Christian tradition, priests have generally been single and celibate, or even living in a monastery, secluded from the world. This remained true even 30 or 40 years ago when it was still quite popular to take a vow of celibacy or poverty, or to live away from the world in a spiritual community. But things have changed dramatically in the last few decades.

I regularly attend large conferences and events, and I’ve enjoyed conducting my own little amateur sociological project. When I get a crowd of a few hundred people, I like to ask, “How many people have a current vow of celibacy?” It’s very rare, these days, to see even one or two hands go up. Then I ask, “How many people would celebrate bringing your heart’s deepest awakening into your sexuality?” The crowd becomes a sea of hands. I can ask the same question about parenting, family, social and political action, but the most interesting to me is money and material success. “How many people,” I ask, “are living with a current vow of poverty? You’ve renounced money and material possessions?” Again, it’s rare to see a single hand. “And who,” I continue, “is interested in bringing awakening into your business life — to have a more conscious and awakened relationship to the flow of money?” Again, it’s a sea of hands. (more…)

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Here is a passage from my book The Translucent Revolution.

Maria attended one of our retreats a few years ago. Now in her fifties, she has been practicing meditation, which she had learned from a well-known Indian guru, for more than thirty years. She had a very calm, empty, silent presence. She dressed in plain, very sensible clothes, and her gray hair was cut in a short, boyish style. After some days, she told us that her greatest difficulty and disappointment was that she still had strong emotions. She felt herself overwhelmed by grief or anger from time to time, which both she and her husband agreed was a sign of weakness, a lack of depth in her meditation practice. (more…)

Whenever I start a new client with Awakening Coaching, it begins with four questions.

The first is, “What are your objectives of entering into this coaching relationship?” This means, “What do you want? What’s important to you?”

The second question is, “What gets in the way? What are the the habits, beliefs, and situations in your life that you’re aware interfere with what you’re most longing for?”

The third question is, “What can we count on you for? What are your strengths? What are the habits that you’ve already developed in your life, where you and everyone else can hold you accountable?” For some, it may be that they’ve cultivated the habit of transparency, of telling the truth. For someone else, it might be the daily practice of meditation or Chi Kung.

And the last question has to do with outcomes. “At the end of this eight week coaching series, how would you like to be different? What would you like to be different? How would you like things to look, in an objective, measurable way? (more…)

Imagine this.

Do you have small children in your life? Perhaps you have your own children, or nieces or nephews, or grandchildren, or maybe the children of friends or neighbors.

Imagine that you go to the toy store and buy the gift that would make one of these children incredibly happy. When my kids were young, it was the latest Lego set, so they could build a pirate ship or a Star Wars space craft. It could be tickets to Disneyland, or a beautiful doll house.

Now imagine that you buy that gift for this special child. You have it wrapped in shiny, silver paper with wide red ribbons and a bow. And now imagine that you take this gift home and hide it in the closet behind your clothes.

Now imagine that you never give this gift. It remains hidden behind your clothes in the closet…

Forever.

Oh come on, Arjuna, enough of the emotional manipulation, what’s your point?

My point is that, sad and twisted as this story may be, it bears a tragic resemblance to the way many of us have led our lives, not just in relationship to one child, but in relationship to everyone you know. I’m sure that at peak moments – when feeling deeply in love, or inspired, or at the beginning of some new endeavor, or after a vacation – the clouds part and you absolutely know your own deep potential and what you have to give. Suddenly it’s clear: the movie you could make, the novel you could write, or maybe it’s the way you could be raising your children, or the meals you could be cooking, or the garden you could be growing. In these moments of great insight, you realize how you could be treating people, how you could be treating your own body, the gifts you would be pouring into the world if not for…

That’s right. Just as everyone has a unique gift to give, for most of us it is also buried behind the clothes in the closet. And, tragically, for many people, the deeper gift never gets given. (more…)

Just as you might have given up hope of ever hearing from me again, just as you’re on the way to buy flowers for the funeral, we’re back. Did you miss me? As you might have noticed, I’ve been keeping an extremely low profile the last months. Hardly a blog post or a tweet or a chirp or a facebook post since February. But I’m back, and ready to play again. Here’s a little summary of what’s been going on.

Back in January, we started having a few problems in our office with being able to communicate effectively with our list of friends. Some people were not getting their emails on time. Things were bouncing back that shouldn’t: you know how it goes. So my office manager discovered a super-duper enhanced new alternative for delivering email to our friends.

“How long will it take to implement?” I asked.
“Oh, two to four days,” came the reply.
“Okay,” I said. “If it’s going to make things easier, let’s do it.”
Four months later…

The situation has been a bit like I needed to go down to the store to buy some butter for our family meal (sending news is the butter, and you are the family). So I’ve been driving down to get the butter in a slightly clunky car that doesn’t always start. I call the mechanic to ask what to do, expecting perhaps a little tune-up. A few days later I find a jet plane parked in my driveway. When I climb in the cockpit to go buy butter, I’m faced with an overwhelming array of knobs, panels, gauges, and LED displays.

“What am I supposed to do with this?” I ask. “It’s overwhelming.”

“Yes,” comes the enthusiastic reply. “But it will get you down to the grocery store in one thousandth the time of driving.”
It looks like we’ve finally figured out how to switch on the engine of the jet plane at least, and now we’re able to communicate again.

During this time, there’s been other stuff going on too. About 18 months ago, I met a charming fella named Vishen Lakhiani who read my book the Translucent Revolution and loved it. He suggested we make it into a multi-media home study course called “Living Awakening.” In the last months I’ve been putting the final tweaks on that course.

So many of us these days are having strong glimpses of awakening: of the dimension of ourselves which is limitless, spacious, free, which is love itself. The challenge is not in the access anymore, but in how we live it. Living Awakening is based on video interviews with some of the most successful people alive on the planet whose contribution to the world has been grounded in awakening of consciousness. You may be surprised to find out about the secret lives of some of the people you see regularly on Oprah.

Chameli and I have also been putting our Deeper Love intensive into a course that you can do at home as well. I’ll tell you a little more about that in my next post.

And the last thing that’s been inspiring to me is what’s been happening in our Awakening Coaching Training. For thousands of years, if you felt the longing to drop more deeply into yourself, to feel the divine, most of what was on the menu was hierarchical and patriarchal. That means if you had a longing for greater depth, you would go find a teacher, usually a man and often of oriental origins, and surrender completely to his beliefs and guidance. The more deeply you subjugated your will to that teacher, the more  your ego would die and “enlightenment” would theoretically bloom. Theoretically.  As you may be aware, these kind of scenarios often involve a crash landing.

Something completely different is happening on the planet today. Friends are able to help friends to wake up from the trance of separation. I’ve been training facilitators of awakening since 1995, and the results in the last months have become even more inspiring. I’d love for you to join me this Thursday at 6pm to hear about what’s been going on. A number of awakening coaches will be on the line with me to share their experiences as well. If you miss the live event, the call will be recorded and you can listen to the replay. If you’d like to join us, click here to register for free.

aurora-trails-727715-gaI remember a few years ago I learned how to ski.  I had never learned how to ski as a young man or as a child because I lived in England where there is not a lot of skiing, so I learned this when I moved to the Sierra Nevada Mountains about 10 years ago.  I remember the first time I got on the ski lift with the instructor, and went to the top of the mountain.  You get off the lift and look down and it is a really long way down to the lodge and the slope was pretty steep, steeper than anything I had ever tried before.  I was scared.  I wanted to get back on the ski lift and be the only person on the ski resort that day going back down on the lift.  But my instructor, who was a young man from New Zealand, was very confident in a relaxed way.

He said, “Don’t worry, it’s fine.  It’s easy.”  He said, “just turn your skis this way and lean into your right foot, now you will go this way, now turn.”  He just guided me down.

The most important thing about the way he did it was not what he told me to do, but an atmosphere of certainty, which he communicated to me through his demonstration, presence and energy that I could do this, and that it was a piece of cake.  This type of atmosphere of Inspired Certainty is for the most part what supports us to live from brilliance.

If you remember back when you where a child, perhaps you had a school teacher or a friend, perhaps a grandparent, who had absolute confidence in your capacity to do something; play a musical instrument, excel at sports.  And I am sure if you look back it was somebody like that, somebody who had absolute faith in you who could inspire you to perform your very best.  I’d love to hear your stories about who believed in you from the very start, and made you who you are today.

An Awakening Coach is trained how to hold an atmosphere of Inspired Certainty for a client, but in this case, the Inspired Certainty which the coach holds is not your capacity to excel in sports, make money, or even to be your best as a leader.  The Inspired Certainty  the coach holds in this circumstance, is the certainty of who you really are, deeper than the stories held in your mind.

Most human beings suffer from a condition of mistaken identity.  Most of us, most of the time, take ourselves to be our past, to be a story or a bunch of beliefs and limitations, and so we live our life that way.

An Awakening Coach holds the vision of who you truly are, deeper than anything your mind tells you. Once you drop into the realization of that certainty it may come as quite a surprise to find out the infinite expansion of your true nature, to discover the infinite field of possibilities.

Inspired Certainty is the first core competency an Awakening Coach is trained in, in a very relaxed and doubt-free way:  to hold absolute inspired certainty for the full potential of the client in a much deeper way than they would usually understand that.

I am offering a free teleseminar about Inspired Certainty on Thursday July 16th at 6:00 PST.  Please join us for our free teleseminar by clicking on this link.

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A couple of weeks ago we just got done with out latest Awakening Coaching Training.  This was the entry level course: which we call ‘Basic Skills.’  I can’t hold back a moment longer from sharing with you what has been going on.

It was jet lag city: we had participants present from seven different times zones, so just as Miss Australia was perking up, Mr UK and Ms Norway were falling asleep, with Hawaii, California and Michigan caught in the middle.  To add to it all, on day 2 of the five day course I woke up …  with the flu.  Full on: headache, fever, aching everything.  Usually I’m a homeopathic, lemon and ginger, let-it-run-its-course kind of a guy.  But this was no time for alternative approaches, I dosed up on NyQuil and Tylenol and every other kind of nasty drug that Long’s would legally sell me.  I had people from all over the world shown up here, and it was no time to lie in bed.

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