Most everyone is familiar with John Gray’s book, Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, which came out more than 20 years ago. It brought the issue of differences between men and women to a much wider audience than had ever happened before, and has to date sold more than 50 million copies worldwide.
John Gray is a fascinating man, and there are a lot of things that most people don’t know about him. I’ve had the good fortune to get to know John quite well in last years because we are in a mens’ group together that meets regularly in Marin County.
One really interesting thing about John Gray that very few people know is that he spent nine years of his life living in a meditation center in Switzerland. He was involved in deep spiritual practice for most of every day of that time, and became the personal secretary of Maharishi Mahesh Yogi, who was famous as the guru to The Beatles. So all of John’s work on relationship and gender difference actually was the overflow of that time of intense spiritual practice and focus on awakening.
Another very interesting thing about John Gray that few people know about is that he developed an “incurable” disease in one of his eyes about 15 years ago. The doctors told him he would certainly go blind. John was smart enough to not listen to conventional medical wisdom, and embarked on a quest to find a cure. He explored all kinds of healing modalities, from Qigong to oxygen therapy to infrared saunas, and unearthed huge amounts of information about supplementation and nutrition, all of which the medical industry would rather you don’t know about. The result was that John successfully cured himself of the disease in his eye, and has also gone on to become probably the most knowledgeable person I have ever met when it comes to understanding nutrition, supplements, and the balance of the body. He’s a walking goldmine on what works and doesn’t work for almost every condition you could come up with.
For example, I have a very close friend with a history of bipolar disorder in her family. Her father committed suicide. When she had a serious outbreak, the doctors put her on the latest and greatest pharmaceuticals, the side effects of which were way worse than her original symptoms. She and her husband were beyond desperate. I was lamenting the fate of my friend to John over a cup of tea one day. He grinned and rattled off five supplements, each easily obtained from Amazon without a prescription, which have been shown to restore balance to the brain. I told my friend about my conversation with John, and she put in her order. Of course, she stayed with her medication at the same time. Six weeks later, she was feeling completely normal again, and was able to go off the medication entirely. The things she took were as ordinary and harmless as Omega 3 fatty acids.
John has been able to help thousands of people in this way, not through diagnosing, prescribing, or curing, but simply through passing on basic information, which everybody actually should have access to. I think by now it’s a commonly accepted grim truth that the pharmaceutical industry is one of the most corrupt and greedy in the world, second only to international banking. There are all kinds of simple remedies, easily available to you, which large corporations would rather you don’t know about.
John Gray’s latest book, Venus on Fire, Mars on Ice, is packed with information on the differences between the male and female body in creating hormonal balance. Most people these days complain that what most gets in the way of their creativity, their love, their well-being, and their health is stress. We experience stress subjectively as a feeling of constriction, a sense of too much to do in too little time, and a feeling of frustration when things don’t work out smoothly. In the body, those symptoms are created by an overproduction of cortisol and adrenaline from the adrenal glands situated just above the kidneys. For our ancestors who would secrete these “fight or flight” hormones in moments of real physical danger, they would be reabsorbed again by the body through physical activity and periods of rest.
Today, both men and women live on an overdose of stress hormones. John’s book points out that the the way to deal with stress in a man or woman’s body is very different. For a man, cortisol is balanced by the male hormone testosterone, which is naturally secreted when a man does weight lifting, martial arts, or when he faces tough challenges and breaks through them into a feeling of success. For a woman’s body, on the other hand, cortisol is balanced by the secretion of oxytocin. So she reduces stress by enjoying a glass of wine and some down time with her girlfriends, soaking in a mineral bath, or watching an feely movie.
Equally, the kind of supplements that will restore balance to a man’s and woman’s body are quite different. John’s new book is packed with information on how to deal with stress, enjoy a more fulfilling sex life, and live longer, all from understanding simple principals of biochemistry.
I’ve invited John to join me on a free tele-seminar this Thursday, March 24th at 6 pm PST, where we’ll discuss some of the most important things the drug companies have kept hidden. You can join the conversation over the phone or over the web, and John will take your questions and comments live. If you miss the live call, you an always listen to the replay later.