I’ve been traveling around the world most of my adult life conducting trainings and seminars. During this time I probably got to hear every kind of story that a human being could tell: people feel miserable, people think they are enlightened. Someone is on a winning streak, someone is down on their luck. One person is in perfect health, and another is at death’s door.
John Prine is one of my all time favorite singers, he summed it up beautifully like this:
That’s the way that the world goes ’round!
you’re up one day,
the next you’re down!
it’s half an inch of water
and you think you’re gonna drown
that’s the way that the world goes ’round!
So, I get to hear every kind of story. What always touches me the most, what gets my heart every time, is when I meet someone who is single, and who sincerely and deeply has a longing for love. It’s perhaps the most touching, innocent, raw, simple, and yet explosively potent state of human consciousness. When we are busy seeking for enlightenment, or when we think we have found it, things easily get complicated. We create all kinds of theories and concepts. The same thing happens when we focus on health. Next time you’ve got something wrong with your body, just ask around and you will find everyone has a theory on the universal panacaea. But being single, and wanting to share your heart with another is such an innocent, beautiful place to be.
At the beginning of every seminar I teach, I always ask people to take some time just being present with their longing. To forget about what they think they should be there for, and not to worry abut being “spiritually correct,” but instead becoming simple and vulnerable with the heart’s deepest longing. There are always a few people who say, “I’m lonely, and I want to love. I want to open my heart to a relationship.”
It gets me every time.
About eight years ago I came to that place myself, and I discovered we can have many different relationships to being single. We can protect ourselves against it, “I don’t need anything from anybody, I am complete in myself.” We can be overwhelmed by it, “Oh, my God, if I don’t find my lover soon I am going to die lonely and shriveled up!” We can go on a sort of shopping frenzy when we are single: “Let’s party!” It takes quite some depth and presence to be with the longing to love in a way that takes you deeper into yourself. To recognize that your true heart is full, overflowing in fact, with so many gifts waiting to be shared.
Over the years Chameli and I have guided hundreds of men and women into the art of being single in a conscious way, that allows you to attract and meet the true beloved. And, at last count, there are now thirty-seven couples that have gotten together as a result of participating in our workshops. Not bad, eh?
This Thursday I am going to be in dialog with a wonderful, amazing woman: Arielle Ford. Besides being the founder of the Spiritual Cinema Circle, and besides being Debbie Ford’s sister, Arielle has also guided countless people into the art of attracting real love. Her book The Soulmate Secret is a Bible on the subject.
Please join me in conversation with Arielle Ford this Thursday, October 8th, at 6pm!